Ask Jackie: Unexpected Blessings

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A Mother's Perspective

  
  
  
7244 855906466267 1976614907 nBeing a mother of three boys, one with special needs, and a wife to a wonderful husband have been the most challenging jobs I have ever had. I had my life planned out as soon as I graduated high school. I got married to my husband, Scott, who promised to love me and make me his world when I was 20 years old. I was a travel agent and had the opportunity to travel to some beautiful destinations. When I turned 22, I had my first born son, Peyton, who was a complete joy. I won’t lie, it was very hard to be a mother at 22, and it turned out to be a little bit more difficult than I thought it would be. While I was pregnant with my second son, Dillon, we built a house and moved in before he was born.

We welcomed Dillon into our lives in March 2001. He was such a contented baby—he hardly fussed at all, and he smiled all of the time. The only thing that was strange is that he somehow had this internal clock that would wake him up every two to three hours during the night. I started noticing something different about him when he didn’t want to explore his surroundings. He was perfectly happy laying on the floor and playing with his one favorite toy. His fists stayed closed, he didn’t coo or make baby noises, and he didn’t follow any visual movements around him. He had no interest in learning to roll over, crawl, or to sit up. I heard about a “mother’s intuition” but never realized I had it until then.

A video of hope...

  
  
  

This video brought me to tears today... There is hope!

There is light...

  
  
  
So tonight we attended the simplified Jesus Cares service at Calvary... It was amazing.. Dillon sang while walking up and down the aisles... A record 54 adults with developmental disabilities attended and it was truly heartwarming to see. I had a moment when I looked around at everyone and it brought me to tears. Two years ago when Calvary opened their doors to these beautiful individuals they didn't sing, didn't shake their instruments, some didn't even look up... Now, they are singing, saying the Lord's prayer, and asking the pastor to pray for them. "K" asked if God could help him find a job, "J" asked if God could keep everyone warm, and "S" asked for comfort because he misses his mom. "S" is 70 years old maybe? I wonder how long it's been... My heart hurt... And then I started to think of all the people that I have met over the years that have opened their doors...opened their hearts...opened their lives to show me, Dillon, my hubby, my boys, this community, this world, that there is light in the midst of darkness, love does conquer fear, and that there is hope in a broken world. I'm glad I went tonight...I needed to see.

A Moment to behold...

  
  
  

Yesterday, Dillon's Occupational Therapist shared with me a moment that he said was a moment to behold.  He was eating in the cafeteria with some of his students and Dillon came over from the other side of the room to sit next to them.  He sat down next to a boy that was struggling to open his containers of food and Dillon immediately started to help him.  He opened them up and he placed them right in front of the boy. He then encouraged the boy to eat with his smile. My heart just squeezed with emotion when he shared this with me. I was so proud of him.

What will happen when I'm gone?

  
  
  

Dear Friends,

I just have to share with you what I saw yesterday at Sheboygan Lutheran High School. 

As I was standing in front of the student body sharing the ministry of New Friends, I felt this overwhelming sense of peace.  As I looked into the eyes of the next generation of change, they were speaking to me. I could feel it, but I didn't know what was silently being said.

After my sharing, a group of teens approached me and shared with me their own personal journeys and life experiences. I was touched beyond words. God was speaking to me through them. 

Blind eyes that see

  
  
  
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Dear Dillon,

Be Grateful...

  
  
  

“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life.  It turns what we have into enough, and more.  It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity.  It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend.  Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.”  Melody Beattie

Finding your value…

  
  
  

I just have to share with you what I saw today.  I went to Wal-Mart this morning in my jammies. Yes, I did! And I’m not ashamed of it at all! It actually felt good to go somewhere wearing my comfy clothes.  I did it all the time when I was a stay-at-home mom and had no time or energy to take a shower in the morning, to put on some nice clothes (which I didn’t have), and to put my “face” on.  I wasn’t rushed today so I took my time. And I noticed a couple of things that made me think and see and then become grateful for.

Relax, he will be fine!

  
  
  
dillon and jackie

“Relax, he’ll be fine!”
A kind gesture they’ll say

I look over to find that
He’s walking away!
Not knowing to look at
What’s coming
From both ways

I call for him
No response
For his name
He doesn’t know
So I run
But my legs
They just won’t go!

There’s no air I can find
No breath I can take
Tears are blocking my vision
How could I have made this mistake!

For my son has no concept of fear
Or of danger that be
He needs eyes fixed on him
24/7 you see!

“Relax, he’ll be fine?”
I wish they could see
That relaxing for now
Is not in the cards for me

I reach him
He’s safe
And I thank God that he
Had his eyes upon him
When mine couldn’t be

 Jackie
 


























The bond between brothers…

  
  
  
brother bond

The love between brothers…

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